Before You Say I DO




So you're getting married and wedding plans are on the way, but what about preparing for the marriage?

Everyone wants a beautiful wedding, but you shouldn't spend all your money on the wedding and none for the marriage. It takes more than just love for a marriage to work and no one gets married with divorce on there minds.

With that in mind, here are a few questions that engaged couples should be asking each other. Please note, that this is not a comprehensive list and it doesn't negate the need for having premarital counselling.

1. What are your expectations of me as your wife/husband?

2. How will we maintain a good marriage?

3. Will we have a shared bank account?

4. What happens if one of us becomes ill?

5. Will we spend most of our holidays together or with friends and family?

6. Will we be sharing the house work, if we both have jobs?

7. How will we resolve conflict?

8. Who will manage the finances?

9. What happens if one of us loses our job?

10. What are our long term goals or plans for the marriage?

11. Will we be having children and how many?

12. Will you put me first in your life, above your friends, family, job and all else?

13. How will you protect yourself from committing adultery?

14. Will you be open to more counselling if we are having problems, after we are married?

15. What do you love about me?

After you've both asked each other these questions and if you're on different ends of the spectrum, one or both of you will have to make compromises. If you still can't find that middle ground you'll need to seek professional help, in order to get an unbiased perspective on how to work through the issues.

Even if you're both on the same page after asking these questions, as it was mentioned before that it still wouldn't negate the need for professional counselling because there are a myriad of issues that generally faces marriages.

Having premarital counselling should never be seen as less important but actually more important than planning your wedding. So it should never be neglected or be placed last on your to-do list, but be prioritized as this is your foundation for a lasting marriage.

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Marriage Tip:

Forgiveness is a key ingredient for a lasting marriage, so ask God to help you to forgive your spouse for hurting you.


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Simone Swaby is a certified Event Planner from "Regal Creative Design Wedding and Events". She specializes in planning, coordinating and offering consultation for weddings and occasions such as engagement parties, baby showers, birthday parties etc. She is highly skilled in the art of design and also works as an Event Designer and Decorator at "Regal Creative Design Venue Decoration". Her skills, knowledge and experience also extends to the world of fabric interior design where she also works as a Drapery Designer at Drapery Plus Home Decor.

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